The Simple Solution to Be a Happy, Stable and Skillful Parent

“As parents, we need to see what the capacities of our children are - what their abilities are - recognizing that each one has the foremost capability and capacity of open intelligence. This is the greatest gift a parent can give the child: to rely on open intelligence and to show the child their intelligence potency, to show the child their own vitality, their own strengths, gifts and talents.”

            – Era of Great Benefit

It starts with us!

I’ve always known this to be true. If I am an empowered, thriving and stable Mother, my kids are more likely to recognize their innate stability, ease and empowerment too.

When my daughter and son were young, I tried every method to feel sane and at peace in the midst of being pushed mentally, emotionally and physically farther than I ever thought possible.

One cold, winter day we all had the stomach flu and my husband was away on a business trip. My daughter was throwing up every hour, then my son started to projectile vomit all over the floors and walls. After soothing them both and cleaning up, I would run to the bathroom for my turn; this lasted 24 hours! To this day I can remember being on the floor with a rag and bucket of hot soapy water, mopping up throw up, feeling sick to my stomach and wondering how many years of this madness I would have to endure? And could I do it? The thoughts were incessant and the weight of being a responsible parent was so palpable.

Really, this is just a day in the life of being a parent, as so many of us know!

Simply “enduring” parenting was not going to work for me. I wanted to thrive and feel freedom within that responsibility, have ease and happiness within everyday challenges, and know stability within the moment-to-moment unpredictability, be it group stomach flu or much more difficult circumstances, like a marriage unraveling. Somehow, I knew this had to be possible.

In 2004, after being introduced to the Balanced View Training by Candice O’Denver, I felt an immediate transformation in myself and in my parenting. I no longer felt victimized by my “data” (my thoughts, emotions, sensations and experiences). The more I relied on the key points and pith instructions of Balanced View, the clearer, more skillful, stable and openhearted I felt. My kids immediately responded to this new-found and uncontrived stability.

The benefits were apparent in the immediate relief in uncomfortable data and in newly available energy, with the ability to fully recognize, support and confirm my children’s own stability, potency, relaxed nature, strengths, gifts and talents, enabling them to flourish in any circumstance and contribute to the benefit of all.

Share Your Experience and Ask Any Questions

Join me this Wednesday for our weekly Facebook Live on our Balanced View Facebook Page, where I will be joined by Henry, a parent and longterm participant of the Four Mainstays. Henry will share his experience of how relying on open intelligence transformed and empowered the relationship with his children. We’d love to receive your questions! You can post already into the Bright Community Facebook Group and we will collect all topics for Wednesday at 9am PT / 6pm CET.


Take the Next Steps to Be a Happy, Stable and Skillful Parent

To bring effortless stability, clarity and joy of open intelligence into your parenting. start the free Be the Power Course today and access the Bright Community Facebook Group where you can receive direct support from Trainers in response to any question, and enjoy a thriving community.


In bright clarity,

Mia & the Bright Team